Ser un looser

Rápidamente uno se da cuenta de que en USA te hablan constantemente, aunque no te conozcan. Para decirte que en Boston hace frío, que esa señora que va a sentarse a tu lado es su madre o para decirte que una vez estuvieron en Barcelona, hace mucho tiempo. En esta insufrible interacción continua, tienes que ser cool: has de ser divertido, genial, pícaro y rápido. Preguntarles cómo les va la vida (¡a un desconocido!) y que tengan un buen día. Auténticas chorradas, lugares comunes obvios, necesariamente se tienen que transformar por arte de magia en algo relevante.

Por el contrario en mi caso, el 95% de mi tiempo, no me apetece hablar con desconocidos. Mantener una conversación de ascensor aparentando narrar un cuento épico, lo detesto. En esta vida hay cosas interesantes y cosas aburridas.

En cierta manera, tienes que ser cool. Si a media mañana no tienes la chispa de Buenafuente, corres el riesgo de ser un looser, un perdedor, uno de los peores insultos en la sociedad norteamericana.

Y así se construye un mundo de apariencias. El primer paso hacia la fragmentación social.

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4 thoughts on “Ser un looser

  1. Thanks for sharing your impressions! I appreciate seeing such a different perspective of the culture I live in. This small talk phenomena has its reasons (good ones), but I do not understand them well enough to articulate it myself. As far as being an outcast if you are not “cool” with small talk, this is normal. Any society has its customs, and if you do not take part in them you will be an outcast.

    • I agree with you that, universally, all societies reject those who don’t follow the stablished rules. That happens at the level of the micro environments too, also true for your group of close friends. I’ve just arrived and such subtle differences, like how to interact with strangers, are more vivid. And those lines were written in New Orleans, in Seattle people interact a bit less, although maybe a bit more than in Spain, not to mention Switzerland.
      You say there are positive aspects about the small talk, but it was hard for you to elaborate… please do and share!

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